I want to talk a little about competition. Now, competition can be a wonderful thing, it can motivate is, excite us, and be a lot of fun. But when we use competition as the guiding force in our life, things tend to go askew.

Society would have us believe that reality is a competition (have you noticed that almost every "reality" TV show is also a competition). The challenge is, last time I checked, winning doesn't really make you happy in the long run. It's like the temporary high of a drug - sure you might love getting the trophy or the applause- but how are you going to find happiness the next day. And the day after that.

Though competition might be a lot of fun, and temporarily motivating, often it can cause more harm than good. For example, it seems that there are deluge of dating shows on TV right now, where the basic concept boils down to competing for the chance to prove your are "datable/lovable" and win out over the other suitors. Is this really how we want to view personal relationships? Do you want competition to be a key ingredient in your relationships (and if it is, how long will they last?).

This causes us to expend our time and resources towards ends that might not serve our highest good. If you're spending all your energy competing for love, for example, it's hard to find time to build the skills and habits that cause a relationship to be successful. If you're busy competing to win, you often lose sight of the fun you can have during the process.

And if you're curious about the answer to that last one, let me be the first to say that being a RockStar (which you are) has nothing to do with winning or losing!


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